Etiquette School of Ohio

Forks Were Once Controversial Utensils

Believe it or not, the fork was a controversial utensil and not accepted in all countries until the mid 1600s.

The word fork comes from the Latin word furca, meaning pitchfork.  Many cultures made a connection between the pitchfork and the devil.  The Greeks used forks until a princess died shortly after eating with one and then banned its use believing it was a punishment for using a utensil associated with the devil.

Until forks were used, only wooden spoons and knives were placed at the table setting.  However, a two prong fork would be used as a serving utensil.  People believed forks were unnecessary because they thought that’s what fingers are for.

England first began manufacturing forks in 1632.  Charles I of England declared, “it is decent to use a fork” in 1633.  Even then, only the wealthy began to use them.

Today, it would be an etiquette faux pas to use your fingers rather than a fork.  Unless of course, you’re enjoying fried or barbecue chicken at an outdoor picnic.  Then that is what fingers are for.  Just be sure to use your napkin too.

George Washington Promoted Manners Too!

On this President’s Day, it seems appropriate to acknowledge George Washington, at the age of 16, copied a set of rules on manners composed by the French Jesuits in 1595 for a lesson in penmanship.  Today, these rules are published in the Rules of Civility & Decent Behavior In Company and Conversation by George Washington.

Some of these rules seem absurd and outdated in today’s society, but a few still hold true.  Here are a few examples taken from a total of 110.

4) In the presence of others, sing not to yourself with a humming noise, nor drum with your fingers or feet.

10) When you sit down, keep your feet firm and even, without putting one on the other or crossing them.

38) In visiting the sick, do not presently play the physician if you be not knowing therein.

82) Undertake not what you cannot perform, but be careful to keep your promise.

109) Let your recreations be manful, not sinful.

Happy Birthday George!