If you are dining out and not sure if you should order an alcoholic beverage, follow the lead from others at your table.
If you are the first to order, play it safe and order a non-alcoholic beverage such as a soft drink.
You may change your order if others do ask for alcohol by saying, “Please change my soft drink to wine. After hearing the orders of my colleagues, a glass does sound wonderful.” The other diners might even feel flattered you followed their lead.
When in doubt, always play it safe and change your order later if you feel comfortable doing so.