Knock Before Entering

If apdsi010013 door is closed to a space that may be occupied, always knock before entering.  This includes, but is not limited to, offices, bedrooms, dressing/fitting rooms, lavatory stalls, hotel rooms and hospital rooms.

Yesterday, I was trying on clothing in a department store fitting room and 3 women opened my fitting room door in separate attempts.  There wasn’t a lock on the door, but it would have been most polite if any of these women gently knocked on the door before swinging it wide open.  The knock would have saved embarrassment for all of us.

On the flip side, if you are in a room when someone knocks to check on the availability, respond appropriately and be polite in your response.  Be appreciative someone bothered to check before barging in.

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Personal Problems in a Professional Setting

Do not bring personal problems to the office.  Leave them at home.

If your coworkers are your friends, wait until you are outside the office to discuss  your personal matters.

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Re-gifting Rules

I am not an advocate of re-gifting.  However, I know re-gifting is a common practice during the holiday season.  If you must re-gift, here are a few guidelines to follow:
  1. Don’t re-gift used items.  Gifts must be new and in good condition.
  2. Wrap the gift in new gift wrap with a new gift card.  Torn or wrinkled gift wrap is a clear sign of re-gifting.  Besides, it’s ugly and tacky.  If gift bags are in good condition, it’s alright to reuse the bag, but make sure you’ve removed old gift tags.
  3. Don’t re-gift if you don’t remember who originally gave you the gift.  Wouldn’t you be embarrassed to give the gift back to the person who originally gave it to you?
  4. Make sure the new recipient will enjoy and use the gift.  Perhaps you’re re-gifting because you had no use for the item.  Take the time to find a happy home for the gift.
  5. Don’t re-gift items the original giver will notice are gone.  Even if the giver lives in a different state, they may look for their unique gift item when the come to visit.
  6. Don’t re-gift personal, customized, hand-made, or one-of-a-kind items.  If the original giver might see it somewhere else, you’re busted.
  7. Never tell the new recipient you received the gift and didn’t want it.  This is no different than getting your older sibling’s hand-me-downs.
  8. I do bend a little when re-gifting consumable items such as wine, candles, and bath products.  These items will be used and gone before the re-gifting is detected.
  9. What happens if you do get busted?  Come clean and apologize.  Explain you were grateful for the gift, but couldn’t use it.  Acknowledge it was a wrong decision and you’ll never do it again.
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Give Driving 100% of Your Attention

When we sit behind a steering wheel, we are taking on the responsibility of propelling at least a ton of metal through space.  The higher the speed, the higher the force of impact that ton of metal has on any object it comes in contact with.

Knowing we have such a responsibility as a driver, I find it difficult to understand why people don’t give driving 100% of their attention.  Look around.  Other drivers are texting, phoning, eating, primping, daydreaming, babysitting, reading, and worst of all, driving under the influence of drugs or alcohol.

We never plan to have an accident, but when we do, lives are at stake.  In a fraction of a second, a good day can turn into a nightmare.  That is, if you are fortunate enough to live through it.

Driving etiquette is not an elective.  It must be practiced 100% of the time.  Accept the responsibilities of driving.  Respect and protect others on the road by ONLY driving when you’re behind the wheel.

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Michelle Obama’s DNC Dress Inappropriate

The dress First Lady Michelle Obama selected to wear to deliver her speech at the 2012 Democratic National Convention was absolutely lovely.  It was flattering, well fitted, flowed nicely, and striking in color.

However, the sleeveless choice was not appropriate for the business professional setting of the Democratic National Convention.  In fact, sleeveless clothing of any type is inappropriate in any professional setting.

At a time when the job market is tough, I’m disappointed the First Lady did not set a good example for women looking for a role model  to help them enter the professional workforce.

Mrs. Obama, you’ve worked hard for those fit arms, but please wait to show them off in a social or casual setting.

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Match Communication Levels

Always respond to communication with the same or higher level of communication.

For example, if you receive a phone message, respond with a phone call or a face-to-face contact.  Do not respond to a phone call with an e-mail.  It will look as though you are trying to avoid that person.

Respond to an e-mail with an e-mail.  If you would like to take it to the next level of communication, respond with a phone call.

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Ask Permission Before Posting a Photo

Not everyone is thrilled to have their photo posted on a social media site.   Always ask permission before posting a photo of someone.

Social media sites are a great way to share photos, however, save this opportunity for your individual photos.   Share photos taken of others by  sending  the photo directly to the individuals in it.

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Don’t Text in the Movie Theater

You may think texting in the movie theater offers a quiet way for you to communicate without disturbing other audience members, however, the back-light glow from your device is very distracting.

If you must text, leave the theater.  Otherwise, wait until the movie has ended to send your message.  You did pay to see the movie, so sit back and enjoy it and allow others to do the same.

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Flirtation in the Workplace

It is good practice to keep your personal life separate from your professional life.  Resist temptation to flirt with or date a co-worker.

Occasionally, it is difficult for someone to resist the temptation to flirt and their object of attention and/or colleague is placed in a most awkward position.

If you find yourself in this most awkward position, it is important to put a stop to the flirtation as soon as possible.  Be nice, but firm in your delivery.  You might want to say to the person who is flirting with you, “I really enjoy working with you and appreciate your support and friendship, but I do not date co-workers”.

It’s important to draw the line in the sand.  Many people try to ignore the flirtation thinking it will go away, but they are only giving the person in pursuit hope.

If the flirtation continues after a request to stop it, then it is considered sexual harassment.

 

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The American “O.K.” Sign – Hand Gesture Etiquette

When Americans form a circle with their thumb and first finger, with the remaining three fingers pointing upward, they are communicating the message everything is okay or good.  This is one of the most recognized hand gestures in the American culture.

However, this same gesture takes on a different meaning in other places throughout the world.  In Japan, it may  symbolize a coin or money.  The French interpretation is zero, nothing, or worthless.  This is also the symbol for a private body part in many countries.

The lesson here is to avoid using this hand gesture when traveling abroad unless you know exactly what the local interpretation is.

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